Emily Howard LMFT
Experiential, Relational, and Attachment-Focused Therapy in San Francisco
turn and face the strange
- David Bowie
I want to help you feel a little less shitty.
My own experiences with depression, anxiety, and feelings of otherness are part of what brought me to therapy, and eventually to this work. Therapy offered insight and useful tools, but what mattered just as much was the experience of being understood, accompanied, and challenged. Over time, therapy helped me build resilience and a different relationship with myself and the world around me. I’m grateful for that experience, and it continues to inform how I work: I’m less interested in helping people perfect themselves, and more interested in what can happen when we feel safe enough in our own skin to experience something new.
Hi, I’m Emily
I often work with people who are self-aware, sensitive, and curious, but find that insight doesn’t always change how things feel.
I work with folks with experiences of:
Anxious and/or avoidant attachment
Rejection sensitivity
People-pleasing
Low motivation, avoidance, and feeling stuck
Confusing relationship patterns
Complicated family dynamics
Visible and Invisible physical differences
Feelings of otherness or of being “too much”
Because of my own experience with Alopecia, I have a special place in my heart for people living with visible and invisible physical differences. LGBTQ+ clients and people of all identities are welcome.
The people who find their way to me are often looking for more than insight alone. They want space to understand what’s happening, make meaning of it, and begin to experience something different.
My Services
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I love working with people who are curious about themselves and open to discovering what else might become possible.
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I work somatically, which means I pay attention not only to what you’re thinking, but also to what’s happening in your body, emotions, and nervous system as we talk. Sometimes the body notices something before we have words for it.
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For couples and other important relationships who keep finding themselves in the same conflicts, disconnection, or misunderstandings. The work is about understanding the patterns between you and finding ways to stay connected without losing yourselves.
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I currently run two (full) groups for women with body image concerns and body focused repetitive behaviors. I am also in the process of forming a therapeutic group focusing on interpersonal relationships for folks who are finding it difficult to find their "tribe".
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I offer consultation, mentorship, and coaching for therapists and other healers who want a fresh perspective on current cases, professional challenges, or the ongoing work of building a practice.